Martijn Tumblr and the overall LGBTQ&c community are introducing way too specific labels for people to describe themselves by, in my opinion. Can't we just be ourselves without clinically categorising what that means?
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😀 Tom Last time someone used that label, there was an "A" in it. I don't even know what the "A" is supposed to stand for! I wonder if it's partially due to the desire to be unique or different.
Martijn I am going to guess asexual, which unlike the T and Q does go in the sexuality-rather-than-gender-identity list.
Nkrs This is all new to me -- could you show some examples?
Martijn Hard to "show" it, as such. First there are separate gender and sexual identities. You can also have a different *-sexual from *-romantic (eg. biromantic heterosexual). Discussions about differences between bi-, omni-, and pan-, prefixes. Discussions about what is and is not a gender. Cis- prefix. Pronouns. Not to mention people who describe themselves having several as each. I don't mind if you want to do that. It does not affect me in any way. I am just questioning if it is helpful for anyone, including those who do it.
Asko P. My country is still just getting use to the fact that there are homosexuals out there. So, yeah, my opinion is if you want to be taken equally, don't go out there promoting your differences to everyone. If they ask, tell, but otherwise why?
Martijn This partly hits home for me. It kinda blurs the lines around the whole "everyone is equal" debate when the people involved in it get super defensive about what terms are applied to who. I personally have had great success with the "I'll tell you when you ask me" approach.
Xasasfdasfd It's even more fun when it's your own teenagers insisting on this stuff.
Martijn Hahaha, I can imagine. Does it ever come up with the scouts at camp?
Xasasfdasfd Not really on the radar of Boy Scouts. Comes up at Girl Scouts sometimes.
Martijn Interesting, I did not expect a difference there! Can you elaborate?
Xasasfdasfd GS in the US has historically been more welcoming to alternative gender people than BS has. Just a different population.
Nkrs I've heard about some of these, but didn't make the connection. Perhaps they're trying to be unique, but if that's the goal, there are other (and I'd argue better) ways to be different, without involving private matters such as gender and sex.
Martijn The battle waged by LGBTQ&c organisations is a good one because gender and sex really aren't "private matters" when they dictate your pay, where you are allowed to shop, and what bathrooms you must use.
Nkrs I see your point; didn't look at it that way.
Dorcas At first they kind of hejmjp
Martijn I really tried, but can't figure out what you meant to say here